Truthfully, I could sit here all day and type the gazillions
of reason’s why my heart is filled with thanksgiving…but for brevity’s sake
(and your sanity!) I won’t!!!
What I will share with you is a personal story.
My parents separated before--and divorced soon after--I was
born. The reasons were many, varied, and too personal to get into. I tell you
this so you will know I was raised by a single mother in a time when a divorced
woman with a child was still looked upon as anathema by our society.
She never graduated from high school, had no marketable job
skills, didn’t drive, and child support/alimony was a joke because my father
rarely paid it.
Now, you might think this story goes on to say that we
became recipients of welfare, or what was called back then relief, that we struggled, lived in a tenement, starved, etc.
And you’d be wrong.
My mother, my uneducated, unskilled mother, NEVER took a
dime from anyone. Not the government (and she really would have qualified for
assistance); she never asked for help from her family (who practically disowned
her because she was * gasp * a divorced Catholic
), or anyone else. She always said she was young, strong, and willing to work,
and there was someone else who needed the help--and the hand out--more than we
did.
So, yes, we ate mayonnaise sandwiches sometimes for dinner
because that’s all she could afford to buy that week. And yes, we never took
trips, went shopping, or even out for lunch or dinner. A big day out for us was to ride the Staten
Island ferry to Manhattan and back again, or to go to the local library and see
one of the free movies they were showing on a rainy Saturday afternoon.
We may not have had much, but we always had a roof over our
heads, she made sure of that. It may not have been in the greatest
neighborhood, and the rent may have been more than she could really afford, but
we were safe, had clothes on our backs, and food in our stomachs. All on a
minimum wage job that practically broke her physically, but that she always
thanked God for that she had.
And when she lost one job, she always went out and found
another immediately. She never let the stress show; never became doleful,
woeful, or morose about her lot in life. She persevered. She pushed through. She never gave up.
So what am I thankful for today?
I’m thankful I had a mother who taught me the meaning of
hard work. I’m thankful I had a mother who taught me that inconsequential personal
possessions weren’t necessary to be happy. I’m thankful I had a mother who
sacrificed her own personal aspirations, desires and dreams in order for me to
have a chance at fulfilling my own. And I’m thankful I had a mother who
realized – and taught me – that education was the way out of poverty and lack.
They say no sacrifice is too great for a parent with regards
to their child. My mother proved that saying is true. She taught me- firsthand-
family comes first, last and always.
And for that, I am thankful in more ways than I can state.
Because family means everything to me – I learned that at my
mother’s side – I write about families.
Because I learned how to be a strong woman from one, I write about
strong women. Because my mother finally found a man who cherished her enough to
take her and her child on, love them, and support them, I write about men with
that kind of character.
And because of my love of families, I’m giving one reader an
e-copy (KINDLE) of my holiday release, A
KISS UNDER THE CHRISTMAS LIGHTS- a story about a large, loud, and loving
Italian/American family – if you can tell me what your favorite Thanksgiving
family tradition is. I’ll pick one winner from the comments/responses I
receive.
Blurb:
With Christmas just a few weeks away, Gia San Valentino, the baby
in her large, loud, and loving Italian family, yearns for a life and home of
her own with a husband and bambini she can love and spoil. The single scene
doesn’t interest her, and the men her well-meaning family introduce her to
aren’t exactly the happily-ever-after kind.
Tim Santini believes he’s finally found the woman for him, but Gia
will take some convincing she’s that girl. A misunderstanding has her thinking
he’s something he’s not.
Can a kiss stolen under the Christmas lights persuade her to spend
the rest of her life with him?
Excerpt:
After an hour of helping people move supplies from cars, I
passed by mama who was carrying a humongous plastic swaddled baby Jesus statue
for the crèche when she called out, “The new guy is here.”
“Where?” I
put down the ladder I’d been carting and looked in the general direction of
where she’d pointed her chin since her arms were full of the Lord.
I found him
in an instant. It wasn’t difficult because he was the only guy in the parking
lot I didn’t recognize. Plus, he was dressed head to toe in basic clergy black.
Black long sleeved shirt under a black vest over black trousers and standard
issue shiny black boring priest shoes.
His back
was to me and he was carrying a table, but after he put it down and turned
around I got a good look at the front of him.
And Holy Mary, Mother of God, what a front
he had.
Close
cropped military style hair the color of wind blown wheat topped a head which
stood – truly – head and shoulders above everyone else around. The guy had to
be six-three at least. Sharp, etched cheekbones God cut with a knife, sat under
deep and dark oval shaped eyes. His face was a composite of planes and angles,
the carved cheeks meeting up with a chiseled-from-stone chin. Hardened concrete
looked softer than this guy’s jawline. His nose was perfectly fixed in the
center of his face, the slight aquiline bend at the tip bringing to mind
Michelangelo’s David, the cupid’s bow under it well-defined and pronounced.
Clean shaven, his mouth was full and thick and - God help me – looked utterly
kissable.
I could
tell even with the chunky vest covering his torso, he was closer to thin than
stocky, but from the way his biceps pulled against his sleeves, he had some
muscle to him.
And some
pair of legs. They went on forever, from heaven to earth in a full, hard line.
I don’t
know how long I stood there just gawking with my mouth open like an empty
cannoli shell waiting to be filled, but I’m being truthful when I say I
couldn’t move. My feet were frozen to the ground, my knees had locked, and my
hips weren’t taking me anywhere soon.
This was
one beautiful man.
The old
masters would have used him as a springboard for their work, and I could
actually picture him in a Botticelli fresco, garbed in Roman robes, lounging
while naked, buxom-breasted chubby women fed him grapes and sweetmeats.
In the time
it took for a hummingbird to flap its wings once, I pictured myself as one of
those women.
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BIO
Peggy Jaeger is a
contemporary romance author who writes about strong women, the families who
support them, and the men who can't live without them.
Peggy holds a master's degree in Nursing
Administration and first found publication with several articles she authored
on Alzheimer's Disease during her time running an Alzheimer's in-patient care
unit during the 1990s.
A lifelong and avid romance reader and writer,
she is a member of RWA and her local New Hampshire RWA Chapter.
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Angela- another thing I am extremely thankful for is YOU! Bless for you doing this every year so we can be reminded of why our lives are --really -- wonderful. I give thanks for a friend like you!
ReplyDelete***mwah**** Peg
Hey, Peggy! Great post. You and your mom are the epitome of "If there's a will, there's a way." I pre-ordered "A Kiss Under the Christmas Lights" and will try to get a review up during these hectic holiday times once I read it. It sounds like a story I'd really enjoy. Christmas stories are my addiction this time of the year. Happy Thanksgiving.
ReplyDeleteJudy - you are a doll! And I'll wager you are a strong, loving mother as well!!
DeletePeggy, what an absolutely lovely and meaningful post! I love the fact that, growing up, we learn from our mothers almost by osmosis, grand and important things we sometimes don't even see till later in life. I so enjoy the family parts of your books. No wonder they're so great!
ReplyDeleteLaura - I tend to think, as adults, we sometimes forget all that our mothers sacrificed for us when things get busy and hectic. We don't call or visit as much as we should. That's something I struggle with everyday. Thanks for stopping by and have a happy holiday season ( hopefully, reading A Kis... will add to the joy! HeeHee
DeleteWhat a beautiful, touching post, Peggy. No wonder you write about strong women. You're strength shines through. Wishing you continued success! :)
ReplyDeleteMary - thank so much for your kind words. Enjoy the holiday season as much as you can!
DeleteHi Peggy, A great tribute to your mother! I love your books and look forward to reading "A Kiss Under the Christmas Lights."
ReplyDeleteJoanne - it's always a pleasure to see your name and pix attached to a comment! Enjoy the holiday season and be joyful. There is so much beauty and love in the world - I wish people would just stop and realize it! Be well.
DeleteYour tribute to your mother made me misty-eyed. Mothers, the soul and bedrock of what make our family's function. I don't know what I'd do without mine! Thank you, Peggy.
ReplyDeleteAnni - you're welcome. My hope is that everyone who reads this blog post will call their moms and tell them they love them. Or, if mom is no longer around, say a prayer for her, light a candle, but do something to honor her. We need our moms, always! Thanks for stopping by.
DeleteWhat a wonderful tribute to your mother and her family and work ethics she definitely passed on down to you. It's something you're reminded of and thankful for all year round, I'm sure. wishing you and your family a very happy Thanksgiving.
ReplyDeleteLorelei- the same to you. Where would we be without our mothers, right? ANd I try to show my own daughter those same strong, persevering principles. One day when has her own daughter, my hope is she'll pass them on as well.
DeleteBe well.
Beautiful post! My mom is still with me and we are grateful ~seven children and so much heartache for her with a chronically ill child and the sudden death of another child. Strength personified.
ReplyDeleteThat's the best descriptor for most moms I know: strength personified. I've always believed God would never give me more than he knew I could handle - my mother thought this same way. And I'm teaching it to my own daughter. Happy Thanksgiving, CHarlotte,to you and yours.
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